I just read a great blog post by John Nolan about things he’s learned in his life and it made me think. A lot. I love hearing the genuine insights of others and I ask myself, what do I want to be? As a designer? As a person? As a friend? As a partner? All loaded questions with varying answers that seem to change for me daily. Some days I know exactly who I want to be, some days I have no clue. My answer to these questions are shaped by what I’ve been dealing with that day, who I’ve talked to, what I’ve read, but the common thread I use to stitch together all these ideas is that, I want to do something that matters. I want my work to help a cause I care about. I want to advocate for those who can’t advocate for themselves. I want my work and my life to matter. I want to feel good about what I’ve done at the end of the day.
I need to chill.
I’m EXTREMELY hard on myself in all aspects of my life. I’m self-conscious that I’m never doing enough to better my life and the lives of those around me. I worry about how people perceive me. Do my friends think I’m successful? Do they think I’m lazy? This is what I put myself through daily because I want to be the best person I can, so far I think I’m succeeding.
I’ll never be content, I always have to be changing and learning. I’m always looking for the next thing, I love planning for my future but putting my plans into action is terrifying, but when a plan comes together…it’s amazing. As John Nolan writes, there’s nothing I’m supposed to be doing, I just have to keep doing something. That’s a liberating idea!
So what am I getting at?
Basically, don’t sweat stuff that doesn’t matter. Do work you enjoy and if you’re not, take comfort in the fact that you can always change jobs and careers. You can always make changes to better who you are once you figure out who that person is. There isn’t one thing you’re supposed to be doing, always be evolving. I’m at a crossroads in my life where there are changes brewing and I’m figuring out who I want to be. It’s an exciting time. Take comfort in the fact that if you feel like you don’t know where to go next with you career or personal life, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Reading posts like John’s, solidifies that we all share the common bond of trying to figure out who we want to be. It’s a marathon. Not a sprint.